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INTRO: The services I offer are:
1) Phone counseling,
2) Individual counseling,
3) Couple counseling,
4) Skills training,
5) Support Groups,
6) One-day Seminars,
Phone counseling:
You can make inquiries or an appointment for phone counseling by email or by phoning me.
I ask my phone counseling clients to download a copy of the counseling agreement, sign it and mail it to me. Of course, email me with any questions before you sign it.
A copy of my book, "I Know What To Do, I Just Don't Do It" is available online for free. You can get hard copy if you want by mailing me a $10 check. I'll probably also ask you to fill out some history forms online.
I like my phone clients to email me a picture of themselves. No particular reason, it's just fun to know what you look like.
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Individual Counseling:
I've worked in crisis and county clinics, so there's not a lot I haven't seen. Currently my clients are often people recovering from bad childhoods or stress, or dealing with depression or panic. Some are learning how to get needs met, build a good life. Some are coming in by themselves to do premarital counseling, or fix relationships between parents and teenagers, or between lovers. Some are learning self care and self defense, or searching for goals and dreams. I've had clienst who were looking for the meaning of life. Some are dealing with being minorities (like artists or bohemians), that sort of thing. Some are working on losing weight, and dealing with the feelings that brings up.
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Couple counseling:
I have a particular fondness for couple counseling. It's such fun helping people build a good relationship. My counseling is based what's been shown to work. So it usually involves hearing your stories, and helping find clarity. It almost always involves airing your complaints about each other, and each others' requests of each other, and what it takes for each person to feel loved. And counseling often involves building skills: communication, assertiveness, negotiation, acceptance, play.... Play is one of the most important....
Sometimes couples are in crisis. Or perhaps there's abuse going on. I've worked in crisis and county clinics, so I've worked with heavy-duty abusers in full stride. Usually their hearts are good, but they were mistreated when they were young. Sheep in wolf's clothing....
Let me tell you a story. A young couple came in, just out of college. I'll came them Bill and Helen. He had the mannerisms of an abuser. For instance, he went around with a scowl on his face all the time, and wasn't aware of it. She had a few bad habits easily fixed, but it took a painful confrontation with Bill for him to understand how impossible it would be for him to succeed without some radical change, either in a career or with Helen. He took the feedback in the spirit it was given, and began to change his outer behaviors to match the good heart within. In a few months he'd been set on a new path. More by Helen than by me, I must say. I'm just the assistant. And primarily by his own courage. Brave man....
If you'd like to check your own relationship for abusive behaviors, I include an Abuse Checklist.
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Skills Training:
SKILLS TRAINING: If you master the necessary skills, you can have a good life right here on Earth. If you get good enough at the art of self defense, for example, then anywhere you go in the world, you're safe.
We live in a time when the skills are known. They're not particularly exotic, and they work quite well. Part of my job as counselor is to make sure you have a full set of tools in your toolbag.
They can be a bit hard to learn. The devil's in the details, of course, and getting them into practice can be tricky. Part of a counselor's job is to help with this stage.
We need self-worth skills, and communication, assertiveness and self-defense skills. We need negotiation and relationship skills.
With them, our life can become rich and satisfying. It's not enough to be safe. One needs excitement in life, too.
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Support Groups:
We meet once a week and talk. We share information and emotional support. We ask questions to help clarify. Perhaps your needs aren't getting met. Perhaps you need to heal from the past. Perhaps self-care or self-defense skills or negotiation skills would help. If you're a couple perhaps you need to build safety, or deal with agreements and expectations. The group's job is to support your understanding and growth. There's something magical about group process.... Click here.
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One-day One-time Class:
One-day One-time Class: The class is called Fixing, Maintaining and Improving your Primary Relationship. We meet for 2 hours on a Saturday at Wild Oats, break for lunch, and then meet another two. Lunch is pot luck. There's plenty to learn, and plenty of time for questions too.
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